Adoption

Is beautiful.

I was reminded of that when someone unfamiliar with the past seven weeks of our life said to Doc that Punkersnoodle looks just like him.  She went on and on sincerely, and Doc smiled with the gentle pride of a father holding his son and said, ‘Thank you”.

Hey now!

It’s a complement munchkin, trust me.

If you say so.

While we were completing our paperwork for our Ethiopian adoption over the past two years, a thought kept popping up waaaay back in the recesses of my brain and I’d swat at it every time, but it hung around like an obnoxious fly, reappearing just when I thought it was finally gone.

Will I wish we had a son that looked like us- was part of our DNA- and if I gave birth to one later on, would I love him more than the son we’re adopting?

I hated myself for having the thought, but I had no way to satiate it with an answer.  Optimistic til I die, I liked to think that I wouldn’t. That it was all the same.  But I didn’t know. I just couldn’t answer myself, and so the thought kept on buzzing.

After seven weeks of being Punkersnoodle’s mama, I’ve put that thought to rest.  Just like you don’t notice the exact moment when that fly that’s been hanging around your windows for days and your lamps for nights finally goes away unless someone brings it’s memory to current consciousness-  I never noticed when that thought left my brain alone.  It wasn’t until that stranger brought it up that I realized-  “Oh yeah, it’s not around anymore.” I was blessed to adopt my son and give birth to my girlies.  I know what a mother’s love feels like from both perspectives now, and I’m so happy to say that there is no difference.

In other words, the fly is dead.

(Forgive the melodrama but the analogy got away with me).

Thanks for letting me share, friends! I love your encouraging comments and have loved sharing this journey with you!

 

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6 thoughts on “Adoption

  1. I know, it’s really true that married people look like each other! I think it’s so sweet! Oh, so it’s the facial muscles that do it. :) That could make sense, but I think there must be more to it than that. But for whatever reason, I love looking at families and seeing how much alike they look. It will be fun to see how Jonathan looks when he gets older! :)

  2. Well Emily there is no mistaking that you two are sisters! You know how supposedly married people start looking like eachother the longer they’ve been married? I think family members look like eachother partly because they share genetics, but even if they don’t- they make the same expressions and talk the same way so (and here’s where I start theorizing so feel free to shut down) I think that people’s facial muscles start developing similarly which makes them look alike!

  3. I love this post! We adopted my sister when she was a baby and people tell us ALL THE TIME how much alike we look and how they can just tell that we’re sisters! We just smile and say thank you and say that yes, we are sisters. :)

  4. So thankful that you have been able to experience adoption. It is so amazing! I love how it teaches us more about God’s love for us. What a gift we have been given. I pray for you often!

  5. I can understand that innocent mistake…maybe Johnny is becoming so Price that he is beginning to look like one…he is adorable!!!! :”)

  6. OMG, look how much little Jonathan has grown!!!!!!!! Justin said he thinks Jonathan is going through a growth spurt. After seeing these pictures, I have to say…….YES HE IS! He has beautiful dark eyes! What a sweetie.

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